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May 24, 2013

In the Broadway hit musical Rent song ‘Seasons of Love’, the cast sings about the 525,600 minutes in a year. Well, there are 86,400 seconds in a day. Given that most people sleep about six hours at night, they are awake for 64,800 of those seconds. Now consider that the average person has about 60,000 thoughts each day and it isn’t hard to see that it means we process close to a thought each and every single waking second! In this age of technology, we are continuously bombarded by images, sounds and intrusions to the point where multitasking is no longer a talent some of us develop, but rather something that is required of us. And it looks as if life will be pressing for even more from us as time marches on.

Financial pressures and budget cuts have added on even more to our already over-taxed work loads. And it isn’t only our work loads that are piling up higher and higher. Our stress levels continue to do the same and reach higher levels all the time. There are more stress-related illnesses now than ever before.

On Your Body:
Headaches, Muscle Tension or Pain, Chest Pain, Fatigue, Change in Sex Drive, Stomach Upset and Sleep Problems

On Your Mood: Anxiety, Restlessness, Lack of Motivation or Focus, Irritability or Anger and Sadness or Depression

On Your Behavior: Overeating or Undereating, Angry Outbursts, Drug or Alcohol Abuse, Tobacco Use and Social Withdrawl

Source: American Psychological Association‘s “Stress in America” report, 2010

But what if we could find a way to focus more on the emptiness between those 60,000 thoughts that go through our brains each day. Dr. Wayne Dyer refers to this emptiness as the gap between our thoughts and he teaches a special style of meditation revolving around the concept of training your brain to focus on nothing other than that space.

Peaceful Meditation

Peaceful Meditation

The concept is an extremely rational one, explaining that our overly-busy minds cannot find space for creativity in the midst of all the clatter and ruckus and commotion from the outside world. We need to be able to pull ourselves and our thoughts away from that, and learn how to remain perfectly still and focused on nothing but the perfect silence found only in the silence and nothingness found in the gap between our thoughts.



A good example of this concept is the attic in your home. It is most likely the place where things that you haven’t seen or thought of in years are stored. That cluttered attic doesn’t have much room for anything else because all the space is filled up with the things that are already there. According to Dr. Dyer, our minds are like that. They are filled with so many random, unproductive, non-creative thoughts each day that keep repeating themselves, we have to put our energy and focus into the spaces between those thoughts in order to be receptive to any new forms of energy and creativity. We first have to find a safe, still place within, far away from all the craziness of our outside world before we can be receptive to new ideas.

By learning how to find time to focus on the gap between our thoughts and practice this technique daily, we learn how to better attune ourselves to something other than the day to day stresses and pressures and their negative impact on our health, our happiness and our lives.


I’m a licensed clinical social worker and have worked extensively as a counselor with children, adolescents, couples and families. I combine professional experience in the mental health field along with my love of writing to provide insight into real-life experiences and relationships. I hope my down-to-earth approach to living a happier, more meaningful life is easy to understand and just as easy to start implementing right away for positive results!

One Comment
  1. Your info is rather unique.

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