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SELF-CONFIDENCE – Part E – Moving Forward

June 29, 2013
Facing Fear

Facing Fear

We have finally made it to the action part of how to build better confidence. We have explained a lot of what goes on in our brains that holds us back and a few important things to keep track of on paper so we better understand some of our self-defeating behaviors. We are ready to slowly begin moving in the direction of where we want to go. The key now is to pace ourselves by setting up easy, small victories for ourselves, and building self-confidence that comes with each small victory.

Start with the Basics
The goal here is to build small victories. So, pick things that are enjoyable and that are not difficult for someone starting out. Keep it fun and simple, not stress-related and aiming for perfection.

Prepare Yourself
Know what skills you’ll have to have in order to get the job done with confidence. This may mean that you have to read up on some things first or even take a course so you are totally armed with qualifications that make you proud of yourself and secure in your ability to be successful. Don’t settle for scratching the surface here. Make sure you feel totally ready to move forward with a positive outcome in view.

Set Small, Achievable Goals
The purpose here is to build up a track record of success. The way to do that is to succeed a lot. By learning to set realistic, small goals and then achieving them, we give ourselves a lot of reason to celebrate our accomplishments and stock up on images and experiences of personal success. In essence, we develop the success habit and keep strengthening it.

Try and Fail

Try and Fail

Control your Perspective
Nobody looks forward to making mistakes and failure. But since the reality is that we can’t hit unless we swing, the likelihood of making mistakes and even failing before we achieve success is very great. It stands to reason that developing a more positive, less fearful outlook toward failure can help strengthen our resolve to see ourselves through to success.

By learning to handle failure and seeing it as a stepping stone to success, we may not necessarily look forward to it, but we won’t feel the need to avoid it at all costs, either. We will be able to see it more for what it truly is, something unavoidable in our quest for success.

So we need to keep moving forward and celebrate each and every time we make progress. This will couple with our more realistic, positive attitude toward mistakes and failure and continue to propel us forward with an even stronger resolve.

Success Image and Quote

Success Image and Quote

Revel in your Accomplishments
I am not only referring to the individual achievements that we are celebrating here. I am talking about the bigger picture. If we work through to this point in the program, we will be able to honestly acknowledge a stronger feeling of confidence and self-fulfillment. We will have developed better self-efficacy by planning and preparing ourselves for it and we will have developed an arsenal of personal successes that we can refer to and feel wonderful about, knowing we have been able to achieve a number of things we set out to do successfully.


I’m a licensed clinical social worker and have worked extensively as a counselor with children, adolescents, couples and families. I combine professional experience in the mental health field along with my love of writing to provide insight into real-life experiences and relationships. I hope my down-to-earth approach to living a happier, more meaningful life is easy to understand and just as easy to start implementing right away for positive results!

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