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The Power of Love

November 15, 2013


I wasn’t sure what topic to pick for today’s post but as I sat at the keyboard all doubt flew out the window and I knew instantly that today’s topic was going to be about what people do for love.

I’m not talking about the kind of love that comes and goes, although that is quite powerful too. The type of love I’m talking about is the real romantic type of love, the kind that writers write about and that move mountains. The type of love I’m writing about is when a person knows that something very different happens to them when they are around the other person. It is the kind of love that doesn’t have a clear description or a definition that makes sense logically, but it is easily seen in everything that person does when they are with the one they love.

It is something that comes over a person, not something they plan for or something they manipulate or regulate. And it is a very emotional state of being – in which one teeters on intense feelings, wonderfully warm, amazing feelings when it is reciprocated and encouraged, and absolutely devastating ones when it is not.

If you’ve never experienced this type of love you will find it hard to understand because I don’t believe it is a mental or conceptual type of thing whatsoever. But if you have experienced it, then you are most likely emotionally reliving it as you read these words.


It is a feeling that doesn’t compare to any other you may have experienced, and in response to the original question about what a person would do for love, well, that answer too is something that reaches beyond logic or reason. While being around a person for whom you have that type of intense love, most rationality is forgotten.

People cannot stay in this emotional state for a long time because it is fully imbalanced and although it is the type of thing that songwriters live for, it can almost be compared to an addictive experience in which the “drug” is the intense feeling toward another person. Maybe that is how the expression “falling in love” came about, because there actually is a sense of falling. Once you cross over, into the realm of this type of feeling, you lose your footing and are at the mercy of the strong emotional ride.

And, like a drug, it is exhilarating and exciting, making it something desirable. It is easy to forget how it can feel equally devastating and painful, again, similar to a drug that can provide an amazing high but also a very significant low when it wears off.

I’m quite certain I am not the first person who has compared intense feelings of love to a drug. Many songs I can think of make mention of feelings like being drunk on your kiss, or feeling broken without your love. So the intensity of the emotion has been significantly documented.

What a person might do for this type of love is a question of degree depending on the person and how strongly “addicted” they are to the sensation associated with the person they love. Some have killed for it. I can’t imagine behaviors getting much more extreme than that. In a recent song on country charts, a young woman talks about killing both herself and the man she loves if she can’t have him in her life when she tells the gravedigger, that he better dig two.

World Love

World Love

The upside to all this is that anything that strong can be used for good too. We can opt to be good witches rather than bad witches and can use the knowledge that we are all capable of such intense and strong emotions for something positive.

As we head into this holiday season, can we make a commitment to put some of our ability for strong, loving emotions toward creating good in our corner of the world? All it takes is choosing to do this and a bit of follow through.

I’d love to hear from all of you so we can share our positive energy and love projects with each other and pass it on – making this upcoming holiday season one filled with the power of love for us all.

Judy is a licensed clinical social worker and has worked extensively as a counselor with children, adolescents, couples and families. Judy’s professional experience in the mental health field along with her love of writing, provide insight into real-life experiences and relationships. Her fresh voice and down-to-earth approach to living a happier, more meaningful life are easy to understand and just as easy to start implementing right away for positive results!

From → Psychology, Wellness

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