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Combat Fear with Mindfulness

December 20, 2013
Mindfulness and thoughts

Mindfulness and thoughts

I don’t think that there is very much in this world that a strong dose of mindfulness can’t improve. When we tune into our genuine selves and tap into our given abilities and strengths, very few things (if any) are impossible. I believe that is because we are providing the situation with the strongest dose of ourselves and facing the situation, no matter what it may be, head on.

Even fear would not be an exception. I believe each and every one of us has within us intrinsic abilities and capacities that span beyond our everyday abilities and actions. However, if this sounds like something simple to connect with, think again. Mindfulness, like other skills and abilities, takes practice and gets more intense and better developed with time.

It is not easy to discover and get to know our true selves on a deep level. Even if we do, it is also not easy to expose and reveal that true self to others. We are opening up our most tender and vulnerable selves to the world and very few of us become solid and strong enough within ourselves to be willing to take that leap of faith.

It is my belief that there are tremendous rewards to be reaped for those who do. I cannot tell you how many times I hear and see people being their own worst enemies. I encounter so many people that get in their own way of happiness and becoming more of who they wish to become. Yet they rarely, if ever, are aware that there is not someone else to blame for their unhappiness or even worse, their misery. It is something they themselves hold the key to unlocking.

I think one of the main reasons I am such a strong advocate on mindfulness is because I know how it impacts each and every aspect of my own life. I believe it does the same to each and every person, although there are some people who live their entire lives and never tap into it. They stay angry and bitter because “things never go their way;” or because other people in their lives “refuse to listen to them.” For them, their dissatisfaction with the world exclusively lies outside of themselves. If you ask them, they will be glad to lament and tell you repeatedly how life keeps giving them a bum deal. They will not need a lot of prodding and prompting to tell you who it is in their life that currently is causing them to be this unhappy or “stealing their glory.” That is because there always is someone who fills those shoes…always something that doesn’t go their way that explains and justifies their feeling so miserable and bitter.



Most likely, each and every one of us knows at least one person who that describes exactly. But sadly, we don’t all have models of people who have learned that the key lies within ourselves. We fear solitude. Our society more or less raises us to avoid “nothingness” at all costs. We falsely convince ourselves into believing we are accomplishing more and being more productive by pushing ourselves non-stop, trying to get to the top of the ladder and obtain more materialistic things no matter how much we may already have.

It is almost as if we are looking for something we are never going to get and yet, if we stop running after it and just grant ourselves permission to “be” and not “do,” we are seen as non-productive and non-accomplished.

Practicing mindfulness is an art. It is a skill and it is something that one can continue to get better at over time. By getting better at it, we can begin to reap some of the benefits that come with the self-honesty and tapping into capabilities we may not even know we possess.

Judy is a licensed clinical social worker and has worked extensively as a counselor with children, adolescents, couples and families. Judy’s professional experience in the mental health field along with her love of writing, provide insight into real-life experiences and relationships. Her fresh voice and down-to-earth approach to living a happier, more meaningful life are easy to understand and just as easy to start implementing right away for positive results!

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